What is worse? A prostitute or a porn star?

Question by KushKandi: What is worse? A prostitute or a porn star?
Seven years ago when I was 19 years old I moved to California and posed nude for a few magazines. I posed nude for a major magazine that is known for it’s “class” and I also posed for a few “dirtier” magazines. I only did it a few times and I honestly had a great time. The camera crew treated me with respect and I did love what I did. I moved back home to Michigan (a small town) and told a few close friends what I did. I thought they were gonna be like, “wow, that’s awesome”. Especially since all my friends are very open minded. But for some reason, I lost every single one of my friends. I had nobody who would talk to me. Even guy friends treated me like I was an outcast. I was banned from certain houses and often if I showed up at a club or party, everyone who knew me would either start drama or just leave because they don’t want me around. I was depressed. It’s been 7 years since I posed for any magazine and I don’t regret my decisions. I still think I did nothing wrong. However, I STILL can’t make a single friend. If I meet someone and tell them about what I did, they usually will end the night right then. If I say, “I posed nude for a magazine 7 years ago” the person(s) I talk to will say “That’s disgusting. I think I’m going to call it a night. Goodbye”. There has never been a time when someone said, “Wow. That’s awesome”. Sometimes I prefer to just not tell anyone because it’s not really a big deal. But I do live in a small town and when I don’t tell someone (even if their just an acquaintance), they will find out and come up to me and ask me if that’s true. Then tell me they are unable to be my friend anymore. People think I’m a s*ut and people think I’m diseased. I can’t even get a guy to want to date me. I haven’t had a boyfriend since I was 17 (I’m 26 now) and I haven’t got laid since I was 21. I am really nice to people and I try so hard to make friends. It isn’t easy. My only friend is really my mom and my dog. lol.

But here’s the messed up part. I used to live with this girl. She was my roommate when I was 23 and she was 19. After living together for 4 months, I told her about my past. She got really upset with me and said she didn’t want a w*ore living in her house so she kicked me out and someone else moved in. So I got a new place and lived on my own. She suddenly moved away with her boyfriend and they moved to Portland, OR. That is where she became a stripper. She was a stripper for about a year and would come home to Michigan and brag about it. People thought that was so cool that she was a stripper. Then she moved from Portland and moved to Nevada and became a prostitute in some brothel. She constantly comes back to Michigan and it’s something everyone knows. Everyone is excited for her because she’s making good money while having sex with multiple people a day. I honestly think that is disgusting. If her and I were friends, I wouldn’t say “you’re a prostitute? We’re not friends anymore.” People think it’s awesome she’s a prostitute. But I posed nude in 4 magazines and I’m honestly proud of those magazines. But I get treated like sh*t. I get death threats and e-mails or letters in my mailbox by people who think I’m a w*ore. This happens maybe once a week. There are people who I never even physically seen in my life who do this to me. Even this girl who became a prostitute talks sh*t about me too. I try to ignore this but it becomes very intolerable. I can’t handle this hate anymore. I am so depressed. One time I had someone put my nude pictures all over my car and wrote “S*UT” all over every picture. Guys hate me more than girls do. Guys are usually the ones who are this cruel. Only a couple girls are cruel but most just keep their opinions to themselves.

I’m not looking for sympathy or advice. I just wanna know if I’m really missing out on something. Is a nude model really worse than a prostitute? Even a stripper I think is dirtier than someone posing nude in magazines. I’ve only slept with 3 people in my life. Everybody in this town knows who I am and none of them like me. It was 7 years ago, wtf? I have a really sweet personality but nobody wants to get to know me. Even co-workers don’t want me around them and they act like I’m contagious but I don’t get fired, thank god.

Best answer:

Answer by libertine23
hahaha

it almost sounds like you’re making this up.

i’m not calling you a liar(don’t be offended)

everybody knows that prostitutes are gross and diseased.

however, posing nude doesn’t make you a slut or anything close to a whore.

you must live in a strange/backwards place. Don’t worry you’ll find some friends that are truly open minded.

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18 thoughts on “What is worse? A prostitute or a porn star?”

  1. the both are worst i dont like or even i hate prostitutes or porn stars, there is no difference it is the same thing u sell your body to the magazines so she is also.. no big deal i am sorry but it is my opinion.but why dont u leave the town and go somewhere?

  2. to be honest, doing porn is something that people will judge you by right away. since its something that is shocking to do. but being a stripper and a prostitute is waaaay worse. your ex roommate is like a freakin hypocrite. and i can’t believe that here friends can be excited for her being a prostitute and a stripper, but not being excited for you being an ex-porn star. i think that both of them are disgusting. but you are exactly right. so maybe you should tell people about used-to being a porn star, after they get to know you. so that they can really get to know you better, and realize that your a really sweet loving person.

  3. Well, if you told me that you’d posed nude in your past, it would not bother me. As a matter of fact, a male acquaintance told me that once, and I never thought anything of it.

    Why, if people you know are so cruel and judgmental, do you
    –Hang around with such people?
    –Tell them about your past?

    Make nice friends and don’t tell them everything.

  4. That’s a bit nuts. I frankly don’t understand why people would treat you so poorly for something like that, and even more so if they look at the other girl with approval. I know you’re not asking for advice here, which is probably good because I wouldn’t have the faintest clue what to say to fix the situation. Perhaps you should just move to a better place without all this frustration. Either way, good luck to you.

  5. The opening part of your story is correct, yes you did do a few photos and you did return to the small town. Up till there your right. It was the following that you got wrong. “told a few close friends ”

    No that is not true, I say, you told a few people you knew.

    A true friend would not care. I have friends who are nudist. While walking around in the nude is not my interest I have absolute no problem with others who do it. In fact in my experience these sort of people are more in touch with reality, they have more balanced outlook on personal values.

    As for the second part of your message. YES YES YES,
    We see hypocrites every day on here. I also see them in my own area. I personally have a belief that the people who point the finger are the ones who you should exercise the most caution with. It is almost a 100% fact that they will be what they are making a fuss over. In other words say for a homosexual, a person who points the finger at me is the person who most likely has his own sexual issues. Maybe not gay but he sure has secrets.

    Child abuse is a good example. Straights just love to point the finger at gays on the child abuse issue yet the child protection authorities statistics show the truth that gays are a long way down the list of possible offenders. Mum and dad are on the top.

    If I was you.
    I would continue doing as you are doing. I would be honest about the past, you in fact have no choice as a copy of any of those magazines could pop up at anytime. Eventually you will find people who are not concerned. Even if you only find just one or two people who are comfortable with your past, they will be better friends than all the others combined.

    BTW.
    We have a real hang up over our bodies. I don’t know why this is so. We have turn the sexual areas into our own little holly grails. People just love to wonder whats in each others pants. Maybe your modeling just took the fun out of it.

    Maybe move towns to a city and see how you do there.

    Cheers.

  6. The worst a porn star will get is maybe a STD, the worst a prostitute will get is death.

    Being a porn star is fairly safe and the risk of getting a STD is quite low, however it does happen.

    A prostitute is exposed to a lot more danger and you could potentially meet someone dangerous and wont even know it until it’s too late.

    Personally I would find a new career.

  7. Why don’t you move somewhere else? you have nothing keeping you there really… you can always keep in contact with your mom and come visit but i would think its time for you to move to a bigger city to start over… being a prostitute is deffinetly way worse than being a porn model.

  8. I’d say they’re about the same, they both sleep with people for money, the difference is one does it with desperate men and the other for desperate men.

    Actually, I’ll go prostitutes, porn stars are unlikely to get STDs.

  9. I don’t exactly consider either of them bad necessarily. If a person wants to have sex/pose nude for money, whether it be in front of a camera or not, more power to them. Although I guess I do think prostitutes are worse–not for their choices, but because of the fact that they have more danger to deal with, like someone else said.

    I kind of can see how some people might think a nude model is worse, though. Your photos are scattered all over, so everyone can see them, but with a prostitute, they don’t have to worry about that–only the people who have sex with them see it. I don’t know. Don’t know if it’s right, but that’s the only thing I can think of as to why people might think that.

  10. Pornstars…they came up with shit and sexual acts never before imagined.

    Just what kinda of an as$ ole would put his hand into a vagina and still hold a sandwich in it ?

    Yuck..

  11. Honestly neither profession you’ve mentioned is, these professions only would be, in the USA. Being Americans are all society raised Puritan and Calvinists morally taboo minded, about nudity and sex.

    Which has psychologically made all Americans psychosexually gymnophobic, dishabiliophobic and erotophobic towards nudity and sex. Different sexual orientations, sexual practices, and towards these mentioned, and other sex industry professions.

    Yet Americans, are still the biggest monetary spenders of adult pornography, fantasy clothing, toys and sexual devices, nude and sexual photography, and prostitution in the world.

    Prostitution is legal in my country, also nudity is totally accepted and is also part of our unique Australian culture. Nobody within our society or many other global society’s are psychosexually gymnophobic, dishabiliophobic and erotophobic towards there’s or others nudity, nor with openly talking about sex.

    Nor would they care if you did nude modeling, or if you were employed an actress or actor in a adult film, or if you were employed as a sex worker. Due to the equal opportunity employment laws and the anti discrimination laws, in our country.

    Unfortunately you and other Americans who work, or have worked, in nude modeling and in other sex industry’s in the USA don’t live in an open minded society. This is why there is this anti social conflict towards you.

  12. Well frankly, i don’t think any of them are bad. if you chose to do something with your life that makes you happy, go for it- as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else. anyway, in terms of what your ‘friends’ are doing, they’re being batshit. i dunno how they can justify what they’re doing. but then again, maybe it isn’t for the modeling (it could be a personality issue, or most likely, a rumor that got out of hand).
    anyway, yeah. don’t feel bad about yourself- i’d personally think it’s pretty cool if one of my friends did that. in all seriousness though, i think you should give some serious thought to moving to a different place- honestly, these people aren’t going to change, so why not move and make friends with people who appreciate you.

  13. I dont class either as bad, I couldnt car eless what people do in their time, hell, ive sent nude pics to people, even now Ive got a rather (almost) revealing pic on facebook. Some people are just idiots, psuedo classy/moral people with no finger on the pulse of reality & certainly no life. Move on, forget them!
    Hope things go well!

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